Listening to Allow Feelings

Everyone is entitled to seek out their own path leading from the darkness into the light. Watching a loved one or a peer traverse a path littered with stumbling blocks can be immensely painful. We instinctively want to guide them toward a safer track and share with them the wisdom we have acquired through experience. Yet all human beings have the right to carve their own paths without being unduly influenced by outside interference. To deny Read more…

Allow others to walk their own path.

Everyone is entitled to seek out their own path leading from the darkness into the light. Watching a loved one or a peer traverse a path littered with stumbling blocks can be immensely painful. We instinctively want to guide them toward a safer track and share with them the wisdom we have acquired through experience. Yet all human beings have the right to carve their own paths without being unduly influenced by outside interference. To deny Read more…

Walking on Eggshells With Your Teen?

Walking on eggshells with your teen? That could mean several things. Usually, it means that we, the parents, are worried about what might happen if we make a wrong move or say a wrong thing. “We don’t want to {poke the bear}”, I’ve heard my clients say. Whenever I find myself feeling this way I KNOW it’s a red flag… for ME! Yep, you heard that right, a red flag for me, the parent. Something that Read more…

Choose Love

Imagine 2 people sitting in chairs. When they face away from each other they are both experiencing a heart at war. They are not seeing each other or considering the other at all. Each is faced inward, only contemplating how they have been wronged, judged, and mishandled. When you have a heart at war you only see you and how others are mistreating you. Realizing you have a heart at war brings another choice. By becoming Read more…

ASK

The teacher, if indeed wise, does not bid you to enter the house of their wisdom, but leads you to the threshold of your own mind.” -Kahlil Gibran One of the best ways to lead your teen to know their own mind is to ask great questions. They may wonder what in the world is going on when you begin asking questions, instead of pointing out what they are doing wrong, but they’ll get the hang Read more…

Parenting Sucks

This is the title of my presentation I am doing for Makana Leadership Academy. It’s an eye-catcher for sure. Things have been hard lately, and when I say things, I mean my brain. It’s been stirring up trouble for sure. Pointing fingers, jumping to conclusions, scrambling to fix, worst-case scenario indulging, doubt fondling, I could go on and on. The tricky part is distinguishing between what to pay attention to and what to let go of. Read more…

Unsolicited Advice

Lately I’ve been giving Mr. 17 (mostly) unsolicited advice. He’s trying to sell his truck. He’s looking for another job. He’s sick and tired of our small town and wants the fastest ticket to anywhere. I have lots to say about these things. After all, I’m older, wiser, have been through these same things, but he wants nothing to do with my awesome advice.. Why wouldn’t my advice be heated with the utmost of attention? Why Read more…

CONNECTION

This is the tool we’ve been successfully implementing in our family. Choosing connection as the TOP priority. Building our family “cage” to be free of judgment, lectures, power struggles, fear, self-righteousness and so forth. It’s not easy, but it’s working. How can I connect with _____ today, is one of my favorite questions as of late. How do you connect with your family?

LEARNING FROM OUR EXAMPLES

Most people think there are only two kinds of examples, good and bad. We assume good examples lead to good, and bad examples lead to bad. However, what is good and what is bad? These words are incredibly subjective. Good for what? Good for whom? How bad? Bad for how long?  Humans watch humans. It’s kind of one of my favorite things, I love to people watch. I grew up watching my parents and older brother. Read more…