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Everything is Going According to Plan

Are you willing to consider that everything is going exactly according to plan? I know, I know. It’s crazy. But just for fun. What if? What if what is happening right now, is supposed to happen. Then what? Would you be able to breathe again? Would you be able to

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Dear Wilderness Child…

Dear Wilderness Child, Angry Hurt Confused Threatening Untrustworthy Desperate Blaming Non Communicative Childish Child, please forgive my emotional roller-coaster of reactions (see above) and my ineffective parenting choices. It was all I knew then. I was acting out of fear, guilt, and disappointment. I know I was in a lot

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River of Life

Life can be crazy. I sometimes feel like I’m navigating class 5 rapids on the river of no return… I wonder when we might catch some calmer waters. But- This. Is. Life. And I’m frankly surviving at times and thriving at times. It’s a perfectly mixed boat of blessed sunshine

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Brewing Something New

Our lovely brains want us to figure life out right now. They want us to stop the madness this very minute. Put an end to the pain, disappointment, sadness, and anger. Our brains think it’s too hard. Our brain’s job is to keep us safe and the same, regurgitating old

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Going on a Bear Hunt

We’re going on a bear hunt. We’re going to catch a big one. What a beautiful day. We’re not scared. Uh oh, grass. Long, wavy grass. Can’t go under it. Can’t go over it. Oh well, we’ll have to go through it. Swishy, swashy, swishy, swashy, swish. When life throws

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When Things Go Wrong

When things go wrong.  Sometimes hard things happen that are not planned. They are not expected, predicted, anticipated, or considered. Then BAM! This huge and mighty weight falls upon our lives and we are caught off guard, with no free hands to catch ourselves. We are left swirling and spinning

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Listening to Allow Feelings

Everyone is entitled to seek out their own path leading from the darkness into the light. Watching a loved one or a peer traverse a path littered with stumbling blocks can be immensely painful. We instinctively want to guide them toward a safer track and share with them the wisdom

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Allow others to walk their own path

Everyone is entitled to seek out their own path leading from the darkness into the light. Watching a loved one or a peer traverse a path littered with stumbling blocks can be immensely painful. We instinctively want to guide them toward a safer track and share with them the wisdom

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Unsolicited Advice

Lately I’ve been giving Mr. 17 (mostly) unsolicited advice. He’s trying to sell his truck. He’s looking for another job. He’s sick and tired of our small town and wants the fastest ticket to anywhere. I have lots to say about these things. After all, I’m older, wiser, have been

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Walking on Eggshells With Your Teen?

Walking on eggshells with your teen? That could mean several things. Usually, it means that we, the parents, are worried about what might happen if we make a wrong move or say a wrong thing. “We don’t want to {poke the bear}”, I’ve heard my clients say. Whenever I find

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CONNECTION

This is the tool we’ve been successfully implementing in our family. Choosing connection as the TOP priority. Building our family “cage” to be free of judgment, lectures, power struggles, fear, self-righteousness and so forth. It’s not easy, but it’s working. How can I connect with _____ today, is one of

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LEARNING FROM OUR EXAMPLES

Most people think there are only two kinds of examples, good and bad. We assume good examples lead to good, and bad examples lead to bad. However, what is good and what is bad? These words are incredibly subjective. Good for what? Good for whom? How bad? Bad for how

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